Q. I ran across this article and I thought you might like it: http://
Another thing; I've been using the Sedona Method to release old garbage (did use it a couple of years ago but it seems more effective now somehow) thanks to your article and it's amazing how deep some aversions go.
I've been releasing on my aversion to study (I'm studying at a university right now) and a thought struck me that regular therapy would never go this deep, or at least not uproot it. It's structure upon structure. It's probably going to take me a good amount of time to release enough aversions on the topic of "studying" for me to do it without much uncomfortableness.
G. "The Abusive Boyfriend" article is useful. Here is a highly redacted version of it; the complete link is above.
(s)he is always with you, always in contact with you...you hear her/him in your head like a voice over...you've even said to her/him..."I feel so much happier having that part of you with me" and (s)he nods knowingly, yes...you're learning to be a better person... Maybe you think (s)he's worried you don't "appreciate" her/him?...
(S)he tells (her)/himself that (s)he's keeping bad influences away from you...But (s)he doesn't completely believe that...(s)he is, after all, perceptive...knows these "bad" things are better for you...knows you'd be happier with them. But then there'd be no room left for her/him....in terms of your life, your soul, this is as far as you need to go.
(S)he will help you pursue any goal...as long as it does not compromise your relationship with her/him. (S)he will give you everything...as long as nothing makes you wonder if (s)he isn't manipulating you...if another kind of life is possible...
But why so much energy controlling the world? Why not just let things be and see what happens? Is (s)he so afraid things will get worse? No. (S)he's afraid things...will get better...afraid of change, any change...because if it changes then (s)he would have to change...
All that matters is keeping the relationship intact. Even if you both end up miserable, better misery and stability with him than...something unknown, something (s)he can't control or defend against.
Do you know this gal/guy?...At any moment there is only one person in the room no matter how many people are in the room...that one person, you, is lugging around the same (wo)man you've lived with for years...your unconscious...
The unconscious doesn't care about happiness, or sadness, or gifts...It has one single goal, protect the ego, protect status quo... trick you into thinking you're making a huge life change, moving to this new city... even as everyone else around you can see what you can't, that Boulder is exactly like Oakland...all of that is maintenance of the status quo, the ego...you are being lied to, by yourself.
As a few links are broken in one of these networks, and a few in another network, etc., soon the whole interconnected structure begins to unravel and eventually the interior communication pattern breaks down and becomes no longer functional. (BTW, there is a great primer on neurons and neural networks from John Byrne @ the University of Texas with lots of "active stuff", complete w/trotting, bounding and galloping quadrupeds.) It is also worth noting that many folk experience a good feeling when a "letting go" takes place, probably due to dopamine reinforcing this "evolutionarily useful" behavior.
 |
| Lester Levenson Creator of Sedona Method |
I've been releasing on my aversion to study (I'm studying at a university right now) and a thought struck me that regular therapy would never go this deep, or at least not uproot it. It's structure upon structure. It's probably going to take me a good amount of time to release enough aversions on the topic of "studying" for me to do it without much uncomfortableness.
G. "The Abusive Boyfriend" article is useful. Here is a highly redacted version of it; the complete link is above.
(S)he's not
mean, or controlling...No, not really...(s)he's not jealous, (s)he just doesn't want you... distracted...
(s)he is always with you, always in contact with you...you hear her/him in your head like a voice over...you've even said to her/him..."I feel so much happier having that part of you with me" and (s)he nods knowingly, yes...you're learning to be a better person... Maybe you think (s)he's worried you don't "appreciate" her/him?...
Save your breath, that's not what (s)he's worried about...(S)he
has...that feeling that you're not really compatible...may even know (s)he's not good for you...
(S)he tells (her)/himself that (s)he's keeping bad influences away from you...But (s)he doesn't completely believe that...(s)he is, after all, perceptive...knows these "bad" things are better for you...knows you'd be happier with them. But then there'd be no room left for her/him....in terms of your life, your soul, this is as far as you need to go.
(S)he will help you pursue any goal...as long as it does not compromise your relationship with her/him. (S)he will give you everything...as long as nothing makes you wonder if (s)he isn't manipulating you...if another kind of life is possible...
But why so much energy controlling the world? Why not just let things be and see what happens? Is (s)he so afraid things will get worse? No. (S)he's afraid things...will get better...afraid of change, any change...because if it changes then (s)he would have to change...
All that matters is keeping the relationship intact. Even if you both end up miserable, better misery and stability with him than...something unknown, something (s)he can't control or defend against.
Do you know this gal/guy?...At any moment there is only one person in the room no matter how many people are in the room...that one person, you, is lugging around the same (wo)man you've lived with for years...your unconscious...
The unconscious doesn't care about happiness, or sadness, or gifts...It has one single goal, protect the ego, protect status quo... trick you into thinking you're making a huge life change, moving to this new city... even as everyone else around you can see what you can't, that Boulder is exactly like Oakland...all of that is maintenance of the status quo, the ego...you are being lied to, by yourself.
Great that you have found the Sedona Method described in the blogpost "Surrendering the "I", letting go of suffering" to be so valuable and useful. It is amazing just how powerful and how simple it is. It has gotten so commercialized and hyped that it is easy to miss just how simple it is. you don't need any "guides", "special programs", "videos/DVDs" or trips to "special places". It's just three simple questions.
Don't be so sure that your perception on your "letting go" through the questions, that "It's probably going to take me a good amount of time to release enough aversions on the topic of "studying" for me to do it without much uncomfortableness" is correct.
Don't be so sure that your perception on your "letting go" through the questions, that "It's probably going to take me a good amount of time to release enough aversions on the topic of "studying" for me to do it without much uncomfortableness" is correct.
The "can i let go of this?, would i let go of it?, when?" Sedona process, IME, is not linear, requiring that every single, individual aversion has to be let go of, "one by one", before there are significant changes. It goes much faster than that because this "old garbage" is really a series of interconnected and inter-related neural networks.
 |
| Different types of neurons used to make up neural networks |
There is another fascinating phenomena on "simple", repetitive "approaches" like meditative inquiry, Byron Katie's The Work, and the Sedona Method. What happens, if you are diligent for a while, is that the approach appears to be taken up as a "heuristic", rather than as the typical "systematic" thinking we would typically use to answer questions.
 |
| Shelly Chaiken NYU (retired) |
The "Heuristic-systematic Model of Information Processing" was developed by Shelly Chaiken. Basically "heuristics" are defined as "experience-based techniques for problem solving, learning and discovery." These approaches are used when an exhaustive search is impractical, too slow, or uses too much energy to find a "sufficient" answer. Examples are a "rule of thumb", "common sense", Occam's Razor, and Godel's (Incompleteness) Theorems.
"Systematic" thinking is our typical, in-depth, looking at "evidence" and connecting it to other information approach.
The brain chooses either a heuristic or a systematic approach through determining "sufficiency", or how much we really do need to know to make a confident judgment on a topic. There is also an excellent short article in a recent Scientific American blogpost "This Is Your Brain on the Internet (Maybe)" by Kyle Hill discussing these different information processing approaches and the brain's choice.
This is the best explanation for the phenomena that i have found, that eventually the "approaches" or meditative inquiry questions like "when am i?, who hears? what is this?, etc." become a simple heuristic, and "automatic". Not only are they automatic, but they are "subliminal", "off line", and engage w/an almost imperceptible feeling and before you know it, the story, issue, attachment, etc., has disappeared, almost before it has fully manifested. The best metaphor i have found is that the heuristic is running in an small loop in a "parallel processor" watching for the right type of situation to arise before it is activated and the situation resolved.
No comments:
Post a Comment